Dilemma

masters24 · 26-09-2005, 08:39 PM

I know many ppl have been in this spot before, so i was looking for some help...

2 problems...

1) My best friend ever in the whole world cheated on her 2.5 year long boyfriend while he was away in Malaysia for RAAF... The boyfriend knows that she went driving with the guy, but doesn't know about the Kiss.... Do I leave it up to them or not?

2) Another mate was having sex in the back of my car (without consent) and her boyfried (also father of their daughter) was out the back of the house with the party... do i tell the boyfriend???

One part of me says "it's their problem" but the other says "they need to know"

-Confused!!!

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Yaw · 26-09-2005, 08:43 PM

I don't envy you mate at all.

No easy answers, best advice is go with your heart and do what you think is best, either way it can blow up in your face, you tell them, you lose a freind, you don't tell them the other gets cranky because you should have sadi something.
I would ****ed as hell though about having sex in your car without your consent!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MO · 26-09-2005, 09:21 PM

I know its hard but if it were me say nothing...you know the three brass monkeys...the truth will always come out in the end.

Racecraft · 26-09-2005, 09:24 PM

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Originally Posted by John McMaster

I know its hard but if it were me say nothing...you know the three brass monkeys...the truth will always come out in the end.

Same, I'd stay out of it too. Somehow the messenger always get the blame from someone

26-09-2005, 09:25 PM

Tough call, I would say keep out... but if it was me, I would want to be told.

NIGHTHAWK · 26-09-2005, 09:27 PM

Dont say anything. It will come back to haunt you.

GreenMachine · 26-09-2005, 09:30 PM

Say three hail mary's and give me their phone numbers...

5LMonty · 26-09-2005, 09:54 PM

I agree with Asylum Seeker, stay out of it and you keep your nose clean! But if it was me that got cheated on id wanna know!!!

Maybe try giving these two ppl (cheaters) the biggest guilt trips ever and hope they have some sort of soul and own up to their mistakes?!

chief · 26-09-2005, 09:58 PM

I would stay out of it. I sayed something and lost mates now I dont and come running after me saying did you know? Its a tough world.

MITCHAY · 26-09-2005, 10:01 PM

Been through plenty of these sort of things. Just stay out of it you will save yourself some trouble.

Oh yeah you might want to watch how much you drink around them also cause thats when its more likely to come out.

**Peuty** · 26-09-2005, 10:13 PM

Yeah, I wouldn;t say a word.

masters24 · 26-09-2005, 11:04 PM

Okay in the second story, the father of the kid is my boyfriends best mate, and the mother was the one in my car. So i feel like i am letting a close friend down if i dont tell him...

GRNKPR · 26-09-2005, 11:12 PM

bribery and have a threesome hope all goes well

whippet_zetec · 26-09-2005, 11:12 PM

keep it to yourself.....dont want to put yourself in the middle of that bun fight once it goes off

masters24 · 26-09-2005, 11:16 PM

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Originally Posted by GRNKPR

bribery and have a threesome hope all goes well

I am not one to cheat! hehe... good call tho

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big_waity · 26-09-2005, 11:29 PM

Tell your mate who did the wrong, that they need to tell the person, and then stay out of it. Or go with Nick's idea. If you want, I'll tell em. Give me name and numbers.

26-09-2005, 11:32 PM

Anonymous message. Get a guy to say it. I'm sure someone on the forums would gladly help out...

Perhaps do a "I know what you did last night"

26-09-2005, 11:32 PM

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Originally Posted by big_waity

Tell your mate who did the wrong, that they need to tell the person, and then stay out of it. Or go with Nick's idea. If you want, I'll tell em. Give me name and numbers.

Well what can i say, great minds think alike

Kryton · 26-09-2005, 11:33 PM

i second blackmail.
you now officially OWN these people if you decide not to tell their partners.
use it to your advantage.

Blue Oval Mopar Man · 27-09-2005, 05:13 AM

Dont Know maybe you could look up girlfreind magazine or something . I dont think this is realy the best place for such deep and meaningful answers ! I mean its a motor vehicle forum ! maybe a holden forum is more what your after .

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KEV EB XR8 · 27-09-2005, 07:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Blue Oval Mopar Man

Dont Know maybe you could look up girlfreind magazine or something . I dont think this is realy the best place for such deep and meaningful answers ! I mean its a motor vehicle forum ! maybe a holden forum is more what your after .

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what and miss out on all this fun? get a life

wait till a good time soon and send bunches of flowers addressed to the wrong partners and signed by the wrong partner . pay by cash and have another person buy them to be delivered . hee hee ?

oldie but a goldie keeps you out of it and a clear concience!

extra marital sex is bad

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bindi · 27-09-2005, 07:39 AM

Hmmm I have been sitting back and finding all these replies very interesting indeed.

I think that you should stay out of it Masters darlin, you never know what the situations may be (could be swingers or people in an open relationship?!) and I agree with everyone else that it could come back to bite you somewhere nasty.

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Originally Posted by KEV EB XR8

extra marital sex is bad

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Now... as for Kev's statement... I have a can of worms... should I go get the can opener? :Up_to_som

KEV EB XR8 · 27-09-2005, 07:43 AM

no dirt on me . im as faithfull as they come . flirty but never crossed to the dark side

bindi · 27-09-2005, 07:47 AM

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Originally Posted by KEV EB XR8

no dirt on me . im as faithfull as they come . flirty but never crossed to the dark side

No no no schweetie, I didn't mean I have dirt on you... I meant the general statement that extra marital sex is bad.

KEV EB XR8 · 27-09-2005, 07:50 AM

sorry hunny (gets back in to my box)

hrtrip · 27-09-2005, 11:58 AM

tell them all while they are in the same room and sit there with a video camera and post the footage. could be good for a bit of a giggle

masters24 · 27-09-2005, 07:10 PM

Thanks heaps guys, ends out that My best mate (no 1) told her b/f already and they will sort it out when he gets back from Malaysia.

Number 2, I am gonna leave them alone... a few other people know about it, so i am sure they will find out sooner or later anyway... so i am leaving it up to someone else to break the ice.... Best of both worlds, they find out and i am not involved!!!