Depression, Anxiety

[randel]

Originally Posted by blueoval

My cousin just texted me that my Uncle has just passed away today.

Your cousin is hurting too... be there for them, with them!

[mondeomatureguy]

Hi guys
I lost my sister in Feb this year and i was at work when my brother phoned to tell me the bad news,
Too make it worse because of COVID we as in my wife and myself couldn't go over to New Zealand for the Funeral because the Boarders were shut.

It helped talking about it to my friends and other family members and of course emailing my sisters daughters.
I was given a few days off work so i did a lot of writing, got out in my car and went driving and took some pictures.

I think the trick is keeping busy, talking to friends and family don't bottle things up because it just makes it worse let it out and talk to people.

[blueoval]

Originally Posted by mondeomatureguy

Hi guys
I lost my sister in Feb this year and i was at work when my brother phoned to tell me the bad news,
Too make it worse because of COVID we as in my wife and myself couldn't go over to New Zealand for the Funeral because the Boarders were shut.

It helped talking about it to my friends and other family members and of course emailing my sisters daughters.
I was given a few days off work so i did a lot of writing, got out in my car and went driving and took some pictures.

I think the trick is keeping busy, talking to friends and family don't bottle things up because it just makes it worse let it out and talk to people.

Im so sorry to hear mate. My deepest condolences.

I agree with you in keeping busy and talking about the person who has passed with family and friends. What I also think helps is talking about the good times you had with them with people who knew the person. It helps heal you as a person and you can keep the memories alive.

[MercuryT]

Get all the support you can around you mate.

Don't stay by yourself as I am, as it's a million times worse.

[creative]

Hi All.

Its been a while and thought I would check in and just say.... "it will be Ok, no matter what you are going through, you will come out the other side"


Me... Im doing ok these days. Am I 'fixed'.. no.... am I 'better'.. yes.

I got to the point where I was exhausted about talking about it, trying to understand it and trying to get by. In the end I looked at what were my triggers and started to learn to recognise them.

I stopped with seeing the psychiatrist as I felt I was just going around in circles with him. There was nothing particularly wrong, I just felt I wasnt getting the same benefit from it anymore.

My last visit with my doctor I requested that I came off the Meds I was on but he wanted me to stay on them a little longer, which I didnt do as I felt it was more of a hindrance now. I did follow his advice about not going cold turkey on them and weaned myself off. over the space of a month.

My outlook on things has definitely improved and I have been able to deal with a lot of things in a rational and healthy way rather than the destructive way I was doing.

I still have moments of loneliness and doubt but no where near the point I was at previously and I do see a light at the end of the tunnel now.


Keep at it guys... you will get through it.

[MercuryT]

Hi all.
Thought I'd give an update as been a whirlwind few days.

Unfortunately I had a breakdown and nearly tried to.commit suicide 3am Sat morning.

Ambulance called and Police searched me as had a knife etc previously and Paramedics came.

Rushed to hospital and was straight into ER.

I've been in huge pain the last 6 weeks so drank a heap (3 bottles of wine a night) to get through it but it all became too much........

So scans were done and turns out I have broken ribs (from a fall when drunk) but more seriously I have Pneumonia.

I've had a lung sample (not fun) and turns out it's infected but hopefully will go away in a week or two.

Mentally I'm on all sorts of drugs including valium to stop the alcohol withdrawals which are scary as.

So long story short I'll be discharged soon from respiratory ward to mental health ward where I'll continue care for both alcohol and suicidal thoughts.

Thank you all for your previous support and I am using this as a massive wake up call to fix my life up.

Best of luck to all everyone with their own battles in life.

Day 5 now and feel on the right track and lucky enough to have a beautiful view of the Derwent river.

[blueoval]

Originally Posted by MercuryT

Hi all.
Thought I'd give an update as been a whirlwind few days.

Unfortunately I had a breakdown and nearly tried to.commit suicide 3am Sat morning.

Ambulance called and Police searched me as had a knife etc previously and Paramedics came.

Rushed to hospital and was straight into ER.

I've been in huge pain the last 6 weeks so drank a heap (3 bottles of wine a night) to get through it but it all became too much........

So scans were done and turns out I have broken ribs (from a fall when drunk) but more seriously I have Pneumonia.

I've had a lung sample (not fun) and turns out it's infected but hopefully will go away in a week or two.

Mentally I'm on all sorts of drugs including valium to stop the alcohol withdrawals which are scary as.

So long story short I'll be discharged soon from respiratory ward to mental health ward where I'll continue care for both alcohol and suicidal thoughts.

Thank you all for your previous support and I am using this as a massive wake up call to fix my life up.

Best of luck to all everyone with their own battles in life.

Day 5 now and feel on the right track and lucky enough to have a beautiful view of the Derwent river.

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Bro, we are here for you to vent. So anything you need to get off your chest, please use this platform to do so.

So sorry to hear of your anguish and pain. It saddens me to hear you going through this alone.

I will say I appreciate you at least telling us whats going on even if you dont know us.

I hope you get some rest. I've had pneumonia twice before and its not a nice thing to go through. Take the time to process where you are and think about how this can possibly be a positive thing in the end getting the help you need. Use it to your advantage to help you.

Im always here to PM if you need to chat to anyone.

[creative]

Originally Posted by MercuryT

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I wont tell you what to do fella but please, please, please take this opportunity to focus on the change as you have said you want to do.....

you are not alone, even if its to a bunch of blokes on a car forum! I even googled where you were as I would of come visit if you were near by....



One thing I have taken away from my experience is the fact I have the ability to help others.... knowing I wasnt alone helped me massively and I believe in paying it forward.

message me on bookface or pm me here if you just need someone to talk ( crap? ) to...

and that goes to anyone else that needs to reach out....

[mondeomatureguy]

Hi guys,
First of all I hope Mercury T i hope your feeling better.

After my first wife and i separated i was living in a small granny flat near Parramatta and one night just laying in bed and looking at the ceiling and thinking "how the hell did my life get to this".

I had a few very close friends, and of course my family, and a few close work mates that i would chat too and it helped a lot.
At night which i found the worst time for me i would go to bed at midnight and wake up at 3am every morning.

As bad as things were at that time for me i never ever thought of doing my self in or anything like that, it didn't even cross my mind. Instead of falling in a heap i decided to look after myself so i went out and brought a push bike and during the weekend i would ride around Parramatta Park.

I burnt up all that energy of just sitting in my granny flat, and started to get fit at the same time.
I learnt to cook nothing fancy, but just basic meals, Eggs, Vegs, Steak, Etc so i wouldnt have to buy take way so much.

I just kept busy and when i wasn't busy i was reading what other guys did after going thru a divorce and how they handled it.

I never got any drugs from my Doctor and just kept busy at work and then weekends out in my car, seeing my mates, and getting back to the real life instead of living like a hermit and not going out anywhere.

What i am trying to say guys in Talk to friends or family, get out and breath that fresh air, keep busy and try not to fall in that great big black hole.

[whitelion65]

Take care mate!\
oh, and don't take it out on the nursing staff, save it for the Drs ;-)

[HIPO]

Sorry to hear Merc T.... have read a bit on the use of CBD oil & alcohol withdrawal relief is one of many uses for it, that seems to work well for some....

[blueoval]

Originally Posted by HIPO

Sorry to hear Merc T.... have read a bit on the use of CBD oil & alcohol withdrawal relief is one of many uses for it, that seems to work well for some....

+1 on this. Its helped for me

I had an interesting week... full of ups and downs, but definately more ups than downs

Might circle back to this thread in a week or two

I am currrently using Efudix , plus i am getting Braces ( who knew) that shall be fitted in another 6 weeks... a nice $13K investment


Irritability, nausea and tiredness from the cream is affecting my ability to do nightshift properly, but as long as i can work safely when required i am keeping up a strong front !!


Except i look hideous.

I really dont have the urge for alcohol and that is a blessing, because i really dont have any desire to exercise either... although i did spend a couple of hours detailing my ride at 6am this morning.


Sleep is over rated anyway

Peace out and have a great weekend

Daz

[whitelion65]

Hope everyone is doing well.
I've just booked in for some brain surgery in two weeks.
This will be additional to some plumbing work I had put in almost exactly a year ago.

Hope this improved things, I certainly have my hopes pinned on this.

I've been in a pretty good space lately (if you discount my performance at work), 20mg of escitalopram and regular sessions with therapist.

Stay strong all!!

[DFB FGXR6]

[BENT_8]

Really struggling at the minute guys, lost my best mate of over 30 years at 3.20am Friday morning after what could best be described as a short but extremely brave battle that he could never win.
It sounds like a strange thing to say but he showed me how to die with dignity.

In real time the period from realising the gravity of the situation until he took his last breath seemed like an eternity, we certainly filled it with an enormous amount of laughter and tears, in reality it was less than 60hrs.
Im struggling to envision life without him as we did so much together, life will go on but will never be the same.

Rest now my friend knowing you are loved and cherished eternally.

[Citroënbender]

It sounds like a strange thing to say but he showed me how to die with dignity.

I get you.

[DFB FGXR6]

I'm back on the downward spiral. The last week has been probably the worst I have felt for a while.

My default mode when I'm like this is to shut down and shut people out. My interactions with people are short and sharp, in a leave me alone type of way. This behavior then ruffles feathers and then I feel bad for loosing my composure and upsetting others. And so the cycle repeats and I feel like a burden to others. I just want to hide.

I'm tired all the time and everything feels like an effort. The combined stresses of my health, work, family and certain other struggles is leaving me with the question of what is the point of it all.

I don't really have many people to talk to about all this. I don't want to burden my family for the fear of making situations worse for them, or incur the wrath of a very un-sympathetic sibling who should know better in regards to mental health. I have the guiding wisdom of a neighbor and work colleague but that only helps so much, the internal dialog returns and the cycle continues.

I have a GP appointment tomorrow, I suppose I will be further doped up to make things bearable.

They say life is for living.

I'm feeling like life is for suffering at the moment.

[whitelion65]

Hang in there DFB.
You are on the right track. See your GP, get back and see a Councillor, whatever it takes.

[FTE217]

Hey DFB, good you post up your feelings, whats the point of it all ? there is always one/s who care for you no matter the negative thoughts.
Even here never meeting you you have built up a connection with many so get that head re set - that classic saying it could be worse is so true.
Chin up look think ahead.

[Syndrome]

Always Look on the Bright Side of Life

Monty Python



Some things in life are bad
They can really make you mad
Other things just make you swear and curse
When you're chewing on life's gristle
Don't grumble, give a whistle
And this'll help things turn out for the best
And
Always look on the bright side of life
Always look on the light side of life
If life seems jolly rotten
There's something you've forgotten
And that's to laugh and smile and dance and sing
When you're feeling in the dumps
Don't be silly chumps
Just purse your lips and whistle, that's the thing
And
Always look on the bright side of life
(Come on)
Always look on the right side of life

For life is quite absurd
And death's the final word
You must always face the curtain with a bow
Forget about your sin
Give the audience a grin
Enjoy it, it's your last chance anyhow
So always look on the bright side of death
A just before you draw your terminal breath
Life's a piece of ****
When you look at it
Life's a laugh and death's a joke, it's true
You'll see it's all a show
Keep 'em laughin' as you go
Just remember that the last laugh is on you
And
Always look on the bright side of life
Always look on the right side of life
(C'mon Brian, cheer up)
Always look on the bright side of life
Always look on the bright side of life
Always look on the bright side of life
I mean, what have you got to lose?
You know, you come from nothing
You're going back to nothing
What have you lost? Nothing
Always look on the right side of life
Nothing will come from nothing, ya know what they say
Cheer up ya old bugga c'mon give us a grin (Always look on the right side of life)
There ya are, see
It's the end of the film
Incidentally this record's available in the foyer (Always look on the right side of life)
Some of us got to live as well, you know
(Always look on the right side of life)
Who do you think pays for all this rubbish
(Always look on the right side of life)
They're not gonna make their money back, you know
I told them, I said to him, Bernie, I said they'll never make their money back
(Always look on the right side of life)

[DFB FGXR6]

Thanks for the support, it means a lot.

I have an excellent GP who has been helping me for a few years now. Had an appoint with her today, hopefully I will see some improvement soon. The process is slow though.

I'm one of those people who dreads change, but clearly I need to do something.

[Syndrome]

Originally Posted by DFB FGXR6

Thanks for the support, it means a lot.

I have an excellent GP who has been helping me for a few years now. Had an appoint with her today, hopefully I will see some improvement soon. The process is slow though.

I'm one of those people who dreads change, but clearly I need to do something.

Remember moods are like the weather - they change.

[slowsnake]

Meditation

[CoupeKing]

This will help with some folks, not all. Could also put this in weight loss thread...

Change your diet. Get off the meds. Zero sugar/vegetable and seed oils/refined grains. 1-2 meals per day and don't snack! Skip breakfast and eat at lunch and 5:00 pm.

Get your gut-health right. Bad gut bad mind.

Get some sun really early in the morning when it's low in the sky (just over your fence) or late in the afternoon when it's about to set - skin cancer at those stages is rare.

Your liver is the most complex, hard working, compromised organ/filter in the known universe. It's where all the good or bad starts. It will fight for you like you wouldn't believe, until it's too late.

Go for long walks on an empty stomach in a non-stress environment.

If there is a certain friend of family member (no1 is perfect) that triggers you, avoid them.

Read the labels of your food and do research.

I'm not a Doctor. Always speak with your Doctor/shrink first and request regular check ups.

[slowsnake]

Samartha Meditation, also known as Lord Buddha's meditation!

[T3rminator]

Diet is an interesting topic. Do people eat junk because they feel down, or do people feel down because they eat junk. Mental health issues are on the rise in younger people in this country, even pre covid. We need more studies to find the cause, is it the food? environment? what is it?

I never feel like eating in the morning, lunch, dinner and a late supper are my meal times, and has been like that for the last 20 years. I do find that when I go through my gym phase, on and off every 6 months, my brain automatically prefers healthier food.

[slowsnake]

Originally Posted by T3rminator

Diet is an interesting topic. Do people eat junk because they feel down, or do people feel down because they eat junk. Mental health issues are on the rise in younger people in this country, even pre covid. We need more studies to find the cause, is it the food? environment? what is it?

I never feel like eating in the morning, lunch, dinner and a late supper are my meal times, and has been like that for the last 20 years. I do find that when I go through my gym phase, on and off every 6 months, my brain automatically prefers healthier food.

The majority of young folk I know are basically bone idle, abysmal and lazy!
And usually pot smokers, not normal pot smokers but hydroponic pot, which to me seems unnatural and non organic, in fact I met a person who uses " growth hormone " to feed his plants!..like athletes or Chinese Olympic swimmers use!

I have 7 neighbours in my line of units, the oldest is 70 then me 68, the others are all on disability pensions, one lady is so overweight her knees can't support her, she's depressed, anxious and smokes cigarettes and hydroponic pot, in fact she can't stop smoking pot, its a worse addiction than my nicotine habit!

The others have various forms of "being on the spectrum??" all of them smoke hydroponic pot!
Another, well she's 43 and an ex junkie, been on methadone for 7 years!. wow that must of been some heroin addiction, she smokes hydroponic pot!

All 7 including me so that makes all 8 of us are on some form of antidepressant medication, mine for neuropathic pain, the pain makes me depressed and its 24/7 and wakes me all through the night, its supposed to stop my nerve pain, it don't do anything really.
But I don't smoke pot, and me and the older lady who don't smoke pot are both happier than those who do!

Funny that, 2 don't smoke pot and are happy, and six do smoke pot and are the most crotchety whining things you could imagine!..but only if they can't get "on".
2 days without pot and its unbearable here, my immediate neighbour likes to scream and bash walls and cupboards, the 43 yr old off pot accuses me of talking behind her back!

Makes ya wonder, these folk are the walking dead to me, they seem to have no soul, look em in the eye and there is nothing there, its vacant space!

Cheers Billy.

[blueoval]

Originally Posted by T3rminator

Diet is an interesting topic. Do people eat junk because they feel down, or do people feel down because they eat junk. Mental health issues are on the rise in younger people in this country, even pre covid. We need more studies to find the cause, is it the food? environment? what is it?

I never feel like eating in the morning, lunch, dinner and a late supper are my meal times, and has been like that for the last 20 years. I do find that when I go through my gym phase, on and off every 6 months, my brain automatically prefers healthier food.

I found cutting out as much processed sugar as I can from my day to day life is helping me a lot. Not necessarily from a weight point of view, but also, less inflammation and for some reason, I don't feel anywhere near as mentally unstable as I used to be. It's a strange feeling but one I welcome.

Going cold turkey from sugar is not a good idea unless you also know of the side effects of doing that for the first few weeks. I recommend just removing sugar from hot beverages for a start will help. Then reducing alcoholic drinks or ones with a high sugar content is then next step. Again, not going cold turkey, but monitoring your consumption to perhaps a couple of low carb beers on a weekend or limiting myself to 1 or 2 shots of quality whiskey per weekend for me has helped no end. I used to drink nightly to cope, just so you know the changes I have made.

I have also changed my snacks from a large packet of Smiths chips in 1 hit to a bowl of grapes and a big glass of water to fill the stomach.

Just little changes like that I have noticed a positive reaction.

Occasionally I will splurge on something decedent but not anywhere near as much as before when I was eating my feelings.

Anyway, take as much or none of that as you will. But I think small incremental changes in diet do play a part in your mental stability.