Depression, Anxiety

[MercuryT]

Originally Posted by whitelion65

Hang in there, Creative.
I’ve been pretty good, mood wise lately, but have just been diagnosed with a brain condition.
I am in hospital at this moment, with surgery tomorrow.
Hopefully it will help!
I’ll let you know when I get through to the other side.

Damn. That's horrible.

Good luck WhiteLion and yes we'll all hear from you soon mate.

[FTE217]

All the very best white lion !

[MercuryT]

My work check up early next Month. (I have mental health issues)

I don't feel required but HR do so I'll attend as requested.

Apparently mental health a huge problem ATM.

Speak up guys and girls. Seek help.

People will respect you for it.

Anyone says "soft" etc is a reflection on them not you.

[whitelion65]

Hi guys. Back online, but feeling fuzzy, and very much sorry for myself.
Not that I’m after any sympathy. I’ve been looking forward to this for the past two weeks, as the surgery offers answers to some of my problems. My therapist was amazed by my change at the last visit. Wanted to know why the positive change......HOPE.
Hang in there folks, look after each other, don’t be dragged down by the negatives.
Love, peace and mungbeans! ��

[FTE217]

great news mate, HOPE and being positive - hug to you pal.

[FTE217]

Welcome back Full Noise and typical wise post.

[Full Noise]

Originally Posted by FTE217

Welcome back Full Noise and typical wise post.

G'day mate, geez it's been a while. I think you had a bronze colored XR8 when we cought up in Wagga, would that be right? Glad that you're doing alright mate. I've been away for quiet a few years, partly for the topic of this thread. Thanks for the kind words.

[GasoLane]

Originally Posted by Full Noise

G'day mate, geez it's been a while. I think you had a bronze colored XR8 when we cought up in Wagga, would that be right? Glad that you're doing alright mate. I've been away for quiet a few years, partly for the topic of this thread. Thanks for the kind words.

When were you here and not telling me?

[Full Noise]

Originally Posted by GasoLane

When were you here and not telling me?

You were there, lol. That was the day that Austin organised. Would have to around fifteen years back.

[GasoLane]

Originally Posted by Full Noise

You were there, lol. That was the day that Austin organised. Would have to around fifteen years back.

Oh yeah, I was selling Raffle tickets and you were chatting up any female that looked half decent

[FTE217]

Long time,
Cheez Wagga, time flies ! :(
haha not bronze metoerite XR8. I miss that Ford.
Hey doing ok but you know, lifes ups and downs - thankfully not as hard as some.
Few years alright, not many around from our ol days but many new members that are good people as well.
Look after yourself !

I had a rough week at work...

I helped pull a driver out of a crash I was 2nd responder to last week at Bajool.

Cab crushed by A trailer B trailer dangling off bridge , grass fire ensued and I had no choice but to spring into action.

Turns out it was all for nought as the driver passed away the next day, he had a heart attack but was brought back by the ambo's.

I was just totally spent and relieved at the same time that we got the fire out.

The transport company has been brilliant offering up support, i have so far declined but i am very thankful.

I made a few new friends that night and utilised Facebook pages to try and limit the impact this incident was about to have on the traffic flow.

Not much sleep answering phone calls from the local news stations and the police wanting witness statements and what not, it was a very tough week especially being on nightshift.

Fast forward 5 days and I started coming around, i even revealed what i had been through to a few colleagues who were astonished I was even at work lol.

If I never attend a traffic crash again it will still be to soon, i'm no hero but I truly understand the fight or flight theory now, i just wish the outcome had been a bit different for the driver... RIP

Still havn't quite explained it completely to my wifey and i havn't even thought about it again until tonight :/

But tomorrow is another day

Peace out Daz.

[Full Noise]

Originally Posted by TrVrPhiLpsiNdstrys

I had a rough week at work...

G'day Daz,
It will take a bit of time to sink in but if you need to discuss how you're feeling, please talk to a professional as they can really put things into perspective. If the transport company has offered assistance, don't feel bad and take it up.
Whether you realise it or not, they've in an informal way, "taken you under their wing" so to speak. That truck driver that you helped in his time of need was loved by people, family and friends and you now share a connection with his loved ones because "you" were there for him. It will take some time but you will get through this because you are experiencing the grief first hand of the events that took place.

Hug your misses extra tight and enjoy your day as best as you can.

[whitelion65]

Hang in there older.
You sound like you’re ready to talk, even if very angry...that’s all ok. Talking is the main thing. Can you get to see a GP, and get on a mental health plan? I hated this step, but it saved me. I’m not out of the woods, but I think I’m still walking in that direction.
Take care brother, hard to offer advice without sounding like a d!ck. But get rest, talk, don’t drink too much....if you do, don’t come down on yourself.
Keep talking on here if you feel that helps. Lots of great blokes (and one or two girls) always happy to help.
God Bless

[Full Noise]

G’day older,
Small steps mate, trust me on this. Even the smallest thing that makes your day better is a positive and please try to focus on this. Try not to worry about things that you can’t control.

Originally Posted by whitelion65

Hang in there older.
You sound like you’re ready to talk, even if very angry...that’s all ok. Talking is the main thing. Can you get to see a GP, and get on a mental health plan? I hated this step, but it saved me. I’m not out of the woods, but I think I’m still walking in that direction.
Take care brother, hard to offer advice without sounding like a d!ck. But get rest, talk, don’t drink too much....if you do, don’t come down on yourself.
Keep talking on here if you feel that helps. Lots of great blokes (and one or two girls) always happy to help.
God Bless

Very wise words here mate.

Please take Whitelion’s advice on this. The mental health care plan will give you a number of sessions with a professional who can really help. What area of Perth are you in? I can start looking online for people who can help you.

I really understand the pit of despair you mentioned in your earlier post. I won’t go into detail here about my situation but please believe me when I say that I understand where your mindset is. You’re not alone here, you’ve reached out and there’s people here you can chat with who really understand.

Look at the new day as a new possibility, that’s what I do and most of the time it works for me. It didn’t always as I couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel but with people helping me, I was able to see things more clearly. Like Whitelion, I’m not out of the woods yet either but I’m on the right track. I’ve had people help me and part of that deal is that you take what you’ve learned and use it to help others.

Keep your chin up mate.

No worries Dan thanks matey, i went for a walk on the beach this morning world's away from last week ...

We don't always agree on AFF and I sure have been a ******** in a past life on here, but just typing this out has put me in a much better head space

Thanks team and really thank you Danny, it is much more appreciated than you will ever know mate..x..

[CoupeKing]

Just keep fighting the fight.

[Sprintey]

Hi Oldel,

I might be able to help a little bit on the gardening. But first: so there I was laid up in bed after surviving heavy medical situation and nearly dying (led to anxiety, something like PTSD I guess, that's it's own story) and I'd made a planter box and planted some wheat, which had sprouted nicely. I just wanted to grow some wheat. Spent a bit of time on wheat farms when I was younger.

So my mum flew over to help and she's all busyness, finding things to do, making the house immaculate, being a real help. Then she starts weeding and finds my wheat. Later I go "Mum, where's my wheat?" and she had weeded the lot out!

OK - how to get really good planter boxes without paying for pots. We use broccoli boxes that you can get free from the grocer. They are white, about 50cm by 20cm. When we get one, we take the lid and then cut it down so it slides inside the box section. We get some plumbing pipe and cut about 5cm high offcuts of it, place 3 of these in the bottom. Then the cut-down lid goes on top of these. We then cut a hole in one of the ends of the box section, at about that 4 to 5cm height off the bottom of the box. This is a water overflow hole. In one corner, we put a length of about 40cm of the plumbing pipe, vertically, straight down, and cut a hole in the corner of the lid so the pipe goes below this - this pipe is the water top-up. On top of the lid, we put in potting mix, manure etc and then plant our seeds.

I'm not a good gardener, but it is crazy how easy it is to get a good a yield using these. Everything I've grown in them works. If I forget for a day or 3, no worries, just top up with a hose until the water overflows out the hole. The plants get nice soil and constant water, their roots grow down into the water. Over a couple of years the styrofoam will begin to leak a little, so get another box.

A bit of food for thought. I've been through a lot in the anxiety/fear of death dept, think I've made it through (you reach acceptance), these threads are a really great place to reach out with a little anonymity if you wish, I wish you well, cheers!

[blueoval]

First time posting here.

Been suffering from Depression for probably 10yrs on and off but over the past 2 years its gotten worse and most recently in last 6months.

In a nutshell, my dad passed away from Cancer after a 5yr battle in April. Its been real tough on the family. My wifes Aunt passed away from Cancer only 3 weeks ago. My dads twin brother is in hospital at the moment dealing with shingles in his eye but is on 24hr oxygen and probably wont last out the rest of this year.

Im not writing here to look for sympathy. Its actually the first time Ive spoken about it. The wife knows I go through dark days. But I say nothing about it as I dont want to burden her already busy schedule with additional issues.

My Anxiety has tripled in the past 5yrs. I am finding it difficult to want to hang with friends. Also, I am finding I am arranging things with others only to pull out last minute due to the anxiety getting to me. I find I feel safer being at home and doing my own thing. I live with other members of my family. They know times have been hard and tend to cut me some slack when I tend to come out with outbursts or anger or scathing sarcasm and occasional aggressive tones. I am working on my attitude and taking some natural medications to help with my mood swings.

Anyway, I thought Id share as I know it helps to discuss things with others openly before it really becomes something more sinister.

[buggerlugs]

Originally Posted by blueoval

First time posting here.

Been suffering from Depression for probably 10yrs on and off but over the past 2 years its gotten worse and most recently in last 6months.

In a nutshell, my dad passed away from Cancer after a 5yr battle in April. Its been real tough on the family. My wifes Aunt passed away from Cancer only 3 weeks ago. My dads twin brother is in hospital at the moment dealing with shingles in his eye but is on 24hr oxygen and probably wont last out the rest of this year.

Im not writing here to look for sympathy. Its actually the first time Ive spoken about it. The wife knows I go through dark days. But I say nothing about it as I dont want to burden her already busy schedule with additional issues.

My Anxiety has tripled in the past 5yrs. I am finding it difficult to want to hang with friends. Also, I am finding I am arranging things with others only to pull out last minute due to the anxiety getting to me. I find I feel safer being at home and doing my own thing. I live with other members of my family. They know times have been hard and tend to cut me some slack when I tend to come out with outbursts or anger or scathing sarcasm and occasional aggressive tones. I am working on my attitude and taking some natural medications to help with my mood swings.

Anyway, I thought Id share as I know it helps to discuss things with others openly before it really becomes something more sinister.

Good on you for sharing. Anxiety and depression is in our community everywhere. I come from a family of Psych Nurses and my oldest daughter works at Headspace and Kids Help line. Add to that, my wife has suffered very bad Bi Polar for 25 years. I see it from both sides. Worse thing you can do is keep it to your self................

[FTE217]

condolense's much blueoval.
I'd say everyone is dealing with challengers more than usual today due to covid.
Its really put extra strain on all especially going through things as you've posted.
Great you did for at least your putting it out there and a little off your chest.
My father inlaw passed away just a few weeks ago and my wife's brothers and sisters are struggling big time.
All we can do is cherish the precious moments locked in our hearts and keep going for thats what they would wish for as well.
Look after the Mrs's and she'll look after you I'm sure.
Cheers bud.

[whitelion65]

Hang in there BlueOval.
Depression seems to be cumulative. You go along absorbing sh!t for a long time, then suddenly, you are on the side of the road wondering how you got there.
Have a look at my previous posts here for the back story, but getting straight to the point, get to your GP, ask for a mental health plan, and speak with a psychologist.
It can be a bit hit and miss getting the right person, but give it a go.
Pm me if you ever want to talk to someone.
All the best brother, you have a lot of people at your back here, good to shar the load.

[mondeomatureguy]

Hi Guys,
It helps when us guys talk about things and get them off our chest. We think were tough and we keeping things bottled up, but its not tough its good to talk about it.

I haven't had the pleasure of meeting any of the guys on this forum and may never get the chance but when I am writing something on here I feel I know all the guys on here, and I know that we all read what each of us talk about because after all it is a forum.

There's all ways somebody on here to listen too, your not along by any means and your not the only one who has Depression or Anxiety. I don't pretend to know everything (wish I did) and I am not a Doctor but after my first wife and I divorced years ago now ( 19 years ago) i didn't want to tell anybody i got divorced at first.

It was a good mate of mine who i have known now for 40 years since i was 19 years old that phoned me up at work because his wife saw my now ex wife shopping and they got talking.

He met me after work we went out for meal and we had a long chat and after it was all over i felt so much better for talking to him.

[Full Noise]

Blueoval, I know that this sounds like a bit of a cliché, but keep your thoughts positive and more importantly, don’t be afraid to talk about it. Posting here is a great idea. Having a like minded bunch of blokes to chat with can really help. Many of us have been through the ringer and in my circumstances, I’ve been to low points that I never thought that I could ever end up in, but with the help of many people, I’ve managed to get out of that place and concentrate on the future.

One thing’s for sure is if you’re chatting with blokes here, you know that when we say that we know how you feel, we really do know how you feel.

If anyone here feels the need to have a chat or even if you just need to vent about your day, send me a PM with your number and I will call you back.

Like Mondeomatureguy, I’m not a doctor or psychologist (but I’ve parked in a few of their parking spaces) but I can at least pass on some of the advice that I’ve been given over the years. I’ve had some incredible people help me, one was a member here and part of the deal is that I have to pay it forward.

Stick with it mate.

[blueoval]

You blokes are a bunch of legends. I know we have never met or probably never will, but it gives me comfort to know I can relate to you guys on a level other than just cars.

My biggest hurdle was actually saying something. My fear was sounding like a wimp or cry baby in doing so. But I knew not saying something was hurting more.

Thankfully my wife of 21years is a great partner and listening ear. But there are times I cant share some things for fear of over burdening her. I know I need to lean on her more. But having this avenue on this thread is helping even in a small way.

[Full Noise]

I see this thread’s been a bit quiet. Hope everyone’s alright. If anyone here’s in a dark place, just yell out.

[BA-XT]

I can unfortunately relate to quite a few people on this thread. I've had episodes at 9, horriblemone at 14, 17, 19 and 21. Min appeared for no reason..... simple chemical embalance causing me to stay awake for days feeling nauseous and unable to eat practically anything. Horrible, horrible experience.

But the last few years have got me. I'm with the love of my life again - we were seperated for 8 years - and just bought our first house. I'm fortunate that I have a job. One week on, one week on stand by still fully paid.

We moved over to the west of Melbourne, and my mum won't talk to me. She thinks I've abandoned her. So haven't seen her since January. But that's a different issue.

I've been on these Cipramil tablets for 20'years with annoying side effects. No sex drive, drowsy a lot of the time, and I get periods of not being able to sleep with then makes me feel sick and exhausted throughout the day.

I have no kids. I wanted one but my ex decided to leave her job, and between my problem of not being able to have sex properly and her low egg count it didn't happen. We spent about $10k on IVF and injections for her. I'm nearly 39 now and my current partner has polysistic ovaries so we talked about it but never tried. TBH with how tired I can get, I don't think I'd be able to handle a child. So that ship has sailed.

I'm an only child. Dad died of cancer when mum was pregnant. So if I lost my partner I'm totally alone. I have a few "lose" friends that I occasionally see. On the outside I seem like a quiet friendly person. I love a laugh but deep down I'm done. Like really done. I love my partner but if something happened to her what would I do?

I've stop caring about most things. Recently got a hair cut and beard trim but don't car about my appearance . Used to be a gym but lifting some decent weight. Not can barely even think about going back. The only things that give me any joy is my partner and my car - I'll never sell it because of the memories I've made with it.

But most days are dark. Negative thoughts about being alone. Because of my lack off sex drive who's going to want to be with someone like me? As I've got older the though of being alone is very real.

Someone before said they try things and fail. This is me. Nearly everything I attempt ends in failure. One of the only big things I've bought / done right is my car. It's been brilliant. Last week I tried to dig a yukka plant out. FAIL. Now I have a dirty big hole in my back yard. I can't even screw a bolt in. No skills in wood working / fixing things. Nearly everything I try ends in failure.

Land Cruiser I bought had a bad engine, transmission and hidden roof rust. Just everything I try ends in failure. After 20'years it's starting to get to me. I'm in Security. Day shift job but not great pay. It's an ok job but my partner earns a lot more. My medication also makes my head foggy at times, so I'm not a very quick learner.

Sometimes it gets too much and has been especially bad recently. The thought of having nobody is terrifying. The worst part is knowing that the depression is getting deeper but it's hard to stop. Always having the thought that at some stage I could be completely alone. My next stop will be my Drs to try another medication. Apparently once you've had 3 or more episodes of depression, you're on antidepressants for life. I've tried multiple times to get off them, but it ends up the same. No sleeping, dry reaching, days off work until I get back on them. If it wasn't for my partner who is very understanding, I think I'm done.

[MercuryT]

Unfortunately back at Drs today.

My medication increased. (again)

It sucks as it takes away the pain sure, but renders me useless as so tired etc.

Battle goes on.

Those struggling be sure to speak up asap.

[MercuryT]

I don't have a partner BA-XT but you will never be fully "alone".

But yeah I know the terrifying part.