Depression, Anxiety

[BA-XT]

Originally Posted by FTE217

BA-XT good on you for posting, thats good medicine I hope.
Good to see your with the love of your life as well, lets her know that daily mate.
The car for all of us is a great outlet, me/you and our car, its a great relationship and medicine as well.
Don't ever think your done, for your not.

With this corona thing, I have one week on and one week on rostered standby. So we get called in if needed other wise stay home. It sounds great, but sitting alone with your own thoughts isn't good. Today I'm going to finish off the last detailing section of th car to keep busy.

My car and detailing it do provide a break from life. I can't wood work or mak anything so basic car detailing is a thing I can do and with the chances of breaking something is fairly low - although I have wet th engine bay in degreaser and shorted out my coils and plugs in th past

[MercuryT]

Originally Posted by BA-XT

So we get called in if needed other wise stay home. It sounds great, but sitting alone with your own thoughts isn't good.

I was off work for nearly a year when my daughter stolen.

Like you said it sounds good, but those suffering anxiety and/or depression it can make it far worse as I became detached, used alcohol and medications to fill the gap, and became even more upset (and lacked motivation to do anything even though so much time......)

Day at a time mate. I sold my house and that has helped me so far (not suggesting you do that)

[blueoval]

Originally Posted by MercuryT

Day at a time mate. I sold my house and that has helped me so far (not suggesting you do that)

Releasing yourself from burdens of any kind including financial ones will help with anxiety. Not having the thought of a big mortgage on top of your existing family issues can sometimes be the extra freedom you need.

[BA-XT]

Originally Posted by blueoval

Releasing yourself from burdens of any kind including financial ones will help with anxiety. Not having the thought of a big mortgage on top of your existing family issues can sometimes be the extra freedom you need.

Our mortgage is only $100 more than rent, and my partners car is paid off in a few months which is about $110 a week so we should be almost better off

We do have to pay $150 for insurance we took out, and the standard $1500 land rates but we didn't stretch ourselves which was important I've rented for 16 years all up so just happy to have this place.

[BA-XT]

Originally Posted by MercuryT

I was off work for nearly a year when my daughter stolen.

Like you said it sounds good, but those suffering anxiety and/or depression it can make it far worse as I became detached, used alcohol and medications to fill the gap, and became even more upset (and lacked motivation to do anything even though so much time......)

Day at a time mate. I sold my house and that has helped me so far (not suggesting you do that)

Nail on the head there mate. Luckily I don't drink. Bloats me and makes feel unwell. My weakness I'd chocolate. I'll go a block without even blinking so I do understand how people can get addicted to alcohol. I've never heard that one beer is too many and a hundred isn't enough.

I spent this arvo finishing off detailing my car. It's one of the few things that I can do without breaking or damaging anything

I got called in to work tomorrow. Evacuation training. Heard it all before and will be boring but at least out of the house and surrounded by people.

I think anxiety can lead into depression. Today has been ok but some days get really dark.

You have kids involved as well? That just adds another layer Ontop as well. Even though I'd have loved just one child, somektimes greatful imdidnt with my ex because I'd be in a world of hurt.

[MercuryT]

Originally Posted by BA-XT

I think anxiety can lead into depression. Today has been ok but some days get really dark.

You have kids involved as well? That just adds another layer Ontop as well. Even though I'd have loved just one child, somektimes greatful imdidnt with my ex because I'd be in a world of hurt.

I'm not sure if anxiety leads to depression or depression leads to anxiety. Either way yes, it's very hard I know.

Yeah I had my Daughter near 50/50 for near a decade then Ex remarried and suddenly I was accused of sorts of claims etc.......all the vulgar lies Family Lawyers enjoy helping their clients with.

None proven of course. As it's blatantly untrue. Yet no contact allowed and maintenance very high.

My daughter was all I really had mate (my Ex knew this of course). So marry a millionaire with no kids and well, 30K later, goodbye MercuryT.

Everyone has issues so all I can say is you'll get there (trust me I'm not there either) and I find being around people much better than alone. (whether in person, webs or whatever)

[BA-XT]

Originally Posted by MercuryT

I'm not sure if anxiety leads to depression or depression leads to anxiety. Either way yes, it's very hard I know.

Yeah I had my Daughter near 50/50 for near a decade then Ex remarried and suddenly I was accused of sorts of claims etc.......all the vulgar lies Family Lawyers enjoy helping their clients with.

None proven of course. As it's blatantly untrue. Yet no contact allowed and maintenance very high.

My daughter was all I really had mate (my Ex knew this of course). So marry a millionaire with no kids and well, 30K later, goodbye MercuryT.

Everyone has issues so all I can say is you'll get there (trust me I'm not there either) and I find being around people much better than alone. (whether in person, webs or whatever)

Bloody hell. That's some heavy stuff. I really don't know what to say.... but I work in the courts and have seen it where some poor bugger has lost thousands of dollars trying to see their child. Men have been getting screwed in the courts for years. How old is your daughter now" will you get to see her soon